FEMININE FLAIRS: WHEN YOU ARE TOO CHOOSY

By Bukky Idowu

I was jogging along with my girl friends; Three of us, one lovely Saturday morning when we bumped into some guys taking an early morning stroll, they were discussing football. I noticed one of my friends turning her neck as we kept on jogging. Suddenly, she was lagging behind. I ran back and jolted her back to reality.     

      

What could make her loose her concentration like that?  When we stopped I asked her the reason for her action. She had been itching to make friend with one of the guys in the group for over a year but lacked the courage to walk up to him.

We all agreed to help her out that morning. This friend was single and still searching. Mr. Right has always eluded her. Our friend was too choosy. We all turned back. Fortunately the guys had branched at the popular eatery in our estate. We joined them in their discussion.

The English premier league was the topic. This was a familiar terrain because we all have our different football clubs which we held allegiance to mine was Arsenal football clubs; The Gunners! The guys ordered drinks for us and we became intimated. Our friend did not allow the opportunity to slip by, she moved close to her choice.

After some minutes, she excused herself from the guy and tapped me on my shoulder as she walked pass. I followed her, when we were out of ear shut, she exclaimed. “This guy is handsome quite alright. He is highly educated with good job and he is equally single, but his dentition is horrible. The frontal lower ones overlapped. I cannot date him” That was how she disqualified her potential suitor again. This is the fourth in a month.

See who was complaining. This friend was a plus-size whom age was not her side. Well we could not force her to like what she hated. We thanked the guys for their hospitality and left.

Ladies, please we are in a jet age, if you don’t do what you ought to do at the right time and you let the time pass you by passing the time, you might end up a failure. Time they say, wait for no one. Ciao!

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FEMININE FLAIRS: APPRECIATION

By Bukky Idowu

This word is lacking in most affairs, and the women folks are the worse culprit. The word sounds so familiar, but we just don’t know how to use it.

Most ladies come about the right guys but these guys slip off their fingers because they lack appreciative words or attitude.

When a guy is caring and loving I don’t think we should act weird with him. I know of

a friend who has never bought a single gift for her spouse. Right from their courtship days, it has always been the husband buying her gifts and presents. She would not remember his birthday or initiate celebration during his promotions or achievements. As time went on, the guy gradually withdrew his care. That was when she realised her folly.

Oh common, what does a man want in us that we can not offer. Even if a man is not caring enough you can initiate it. Teach him how to give by giving him.  We need to work on our attitude. Yeah! Do you hear me, “attitude” and that is 100% of us without leaving a thing behind

If your man loves you sincerely and takes proper care of you, you are lucky. Many ladies out there are not that lucky. Reciprocate by showering him with love and affection. Appreciate him with gifts and presents. Celebrate him, and you will realise that love will never depart from your home.                                             

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FEMININE FLAIRS: BIG, BOLD AND BEAUTIFUL

By Bukky Idowu

How do you see yourself sister? It is the way you see yourself that is quite important. You don’t have to bother your head on how people see you. I always feel sad when people complain about fat, plump, robust, plus–sized or more derogatory word “Orobo” ladies. I feel sadder when this object of ridicule complain about their shape as if they created themselves.

Is it a crime to be fat? If what is written in the Holy writ is anything to go by, we are all created in God’s image, therefore it is sinful to complain about the way God created us.

As a plus–sized lady, I know what it is to be subjected to ridicule. I have been taunted by friends and foes since I was a kid. I have learnt to be who I am and not what people want me to be. I don’t like it when you say “fat” It is too vulgar! So you’ll pardon me if I have to use the word plus–sized or don’t you think it is more like it.

As a plus–sized lady, inferiority complex is the monster you need to battle and win in order to see your good side. As for me, I’m okay now. I live my life to the fullest not comparing myself with someone else. I now see the better side of myself. I take the taunting as compliments.

I now see myself as the “TRIPPLE B”, Big, Bold and Beautiful. It is when you kill the monster in you that the angel will be let loose and you will feel beautiful from inside.

I therefore implore my plus–sized colleagues to desist from watching, listening or reading literature that would dampen their spirits. There are encouraging television programmes and video to boost your morale.

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